List of the Do(s)......

I think it is super important for me to start compiling the priority list for all the things I needed to to. It is so difficult visualizing all the thing all in this not so biggy brain of mine. Hmmm....Since I got one more year to go which is not so much of a time to make all the wishes come true.....Let me start with the KPI[s] first......

Things to DO:

2012

September: 

Confirmation of Photograher + Videographer (Bliss/ Pixelwave)

October: 

Confirmation of Caterer/ Guest List/ Menu for (Nikah, Dinner, Sanding from Amani Weddings?)

November: 

Concentrate on Hantaran Gifts/ Dulang/ Wedding Favours

December: 

Confirmation and Booking of Solemnization Venue + Deposit of 25%
Start Quran Classes

2013

January: 

Confirmation and Booking of Solemnization Venue depending on the date for 2014 Bookings opening + Deposit of 25%

February & March :

Meeting with MUA for Confirmation of Wedding Theme and designs of Bride & Groom's Wardrobe

April & May: 

1. Confirmation of Wedding Invitation Cards & Decor with Jentayu Gallery. Double confirm on the Number of cards for the Persandingan Event from both parents.
2. Start Pre-wedding Photoshoot/ Pre-wedding Videos

June, July & August: 

1. Confirmation and Booking of Henna (Syraskins)
2. Confirmation on the No. of Bridesmaid pax
3. Bridesmaid Proposal Cards (DIY)
4. Bridesmaid and Groomsmen Button Pins (DIY)
5. Bridesmaid/ Flowergirls Dresses (DIY)

September: 

1. Start Preparing "PHOTOBOOTHS" Catch Phrases (DIY)
2. Prepare Props needed if any for photobooths
3. Confirm on Photobooth Picture Quality ( Polaroid/ Normal Camera?)

October: 

Preparing for Bunga Rampai Favours(Max of 50 Casings per Bride/ Groom)

November: 

1. Prepare Dulang Hantara (Max of 7 Trays  (Bride/ Groom)
2. Confirm that ALL Wedding Invitations/ Favours ARE READY.
3. Confirmation of Quran Recitation

December:

1. Check with Vendors on any last minute updates. 
2. Deposit of 25% (2nd Payment) for Wedding Solemnization Venue
3. Rehearsal of Quran Recitation

2014

January:

GET READY FOR OUR BIG DAY.

Fuhhh!!! It took me like about 30 minutes to finally do up a KPI Schedule like this. I am sure there will be many other things to add on as times goes by. It's okay, better than nothing right. At least I know which direction to head on each monthly basis. At least, it gives me a headstart on which items to concentrate on rather than try to be a Wonder woman and plan it all inside my head without needing to jot it down.

Sometimes, that is the problem with me. I am too optimistic. I always keep thinking everyhing is possible and no wonder I do feel the strain. But InsyaAllah, Allah SWT will guide me throughout this journey with my HTB. I BELIEVE in ONLY HIM.

And therefore, I shall begin this Wonderful Journey with Bismillah........

       

Bridezilla Maybe......

Countdown-ing to our BIG HUGE DAY. Lagi 1 year....don't count the 3 months laaa...pejam celik...celik pejam nanti da December pulak and to mention that I will be sibe-on with many activities in schools and such. sighhhh...Cobaaaaan.....

There are like a super long list of vendors waiting to be confirmed. So far...we have managed only to secure our MUA and Decor tu pon da kira naseb baek beb. The rest......let me try to say this in one loooooooong superrr loooong breath.......

       caterer.photographer.videographer.venues.marriagecourse.bridesmaid.groomsmen.ringbearer,flowergirls. Just like carousel buffet price...there are certainly ++++++++ lagiiii banyak.....Hantaran...Dulang Hantaran.Maskahwin.

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhh.....Bride on stress mode. Heeeeelpppp!!!

Lagi 1 year jer dokk....Hopefully I could confirm my photographer + Videographer by the end of this week. I dont care what all the Makcik quarters tell me saying that I got 2 more years left. 2 more years??? Ni de Tou ah!!! Ni da tak payah pon pergi slimming centre. 

Not to mention now I am more organized...thanks to bestie Ms.Snooki (tu actually nama pebret pillow dier) who constantly remind me to be more organized on dates and other moolah matters especially. I know in 2 years down the road when i read back all of this.....She is one of my pillar of strength that I should appreciate. Heee!!!

Other than that.....Ms.Snooki been helping with the logistics and basically the practicality of the sibe siao ting tong dream wedding that I want. For me.....I can only conceptualize laaaa. For her, she help to count the moolah and cents. Being a maths teachers plus minus divide multiplication is an everyday thing. For me.......I only know how to point and say I want that!! Hahh!!! Typical spoiltbrat me......

Not only that...Mr Scoot (Hubby of my pebret Ms, Snooki) pon rewang jugak.....rewang recce tempat...rewang kirakan duit and help me to plan and organized my KIP(S)....Aiseybedah!!! Kirekan mcm ada P.A la gituuu....But honestly, without their guidance...this A$$ of mine wont move beb. Not to mention HTB punyer bontot lagi glue kalau tak kena sound.

Other than that, of cos my parents has been supportive of the things I wanted for my wedding especially the Solemnization ceremony which will be posted in another post. Knowing that our Nikah Day will be in my Birthday month...I've asked for something special.......

For the HTB, he is on stressed mode too.Always worrying bout the finances. I feel pity for my Darling. In the midst of all this stress, sometimes we do get on each other's nerves. I dunno why because sometimes the issue could just be teeenee weeenee but it could escalade into a big fire. Nonethess, he will always comfort me and always give me the best advices once he cooled down. 

And furthermore...being the perfectionist that I am and with a topping of a "panas baran" attitude...I feel that I started to grow and mature in matters of the heart. I wanted to be more patient and the more forgiving one in the future compared to HTB who I really admit have utmost patience with me. But of cos, most of the times I want things MY WAY cos its the only right way I know how..tu yang Hot Button dia slalu kena trigger and then I kena scolded....pouts. Kesian kan. What to do. At the very least now, I try not to shout and act like a spoilbrat like last time. I just keep quiet and try to talk thing rationally.

sighhhh...kalau dulu saper tak kenal...Lu goyang gua gendang beb!!! 

But all that I guess needs to come to an end. People need to change. I need to change. And its for the better. Knowing that he will be the Khalifah of the Family. He should be respected by the Wife at all time. May Allah guide me to be a patient and loving Wife to be just like how my HTB has shown all this years.

Our .LoveNest. by the Bay

By the Bay ehhh?? Macam over-rated gituuuu...

Hahahaha...what do I care. It is specifically situated by the River Bay. What am I talking about?? I'm talking about beau's and mine future house yo!! Our Love Nest. Our Baby Making Place...ehhh wait no!! That . would have to be at Clubmed...so my baby got "chopped" as Made in ClubMed....Classsss!!! Hahhahahah

Anyway here is the long awaited future nestling place for beau and his beautiful B...Me lah of course!!!

*Photos Courtesy of HDB

Alhamdullilah...Everything went smoothly yesterday. Though we waited for few hours just because I am that superbly kiasu and thought can jump queue...hahahaha...and we waited and waited for 3 long hours sitting and looking at the plasma screen and praying that our wanted unit would not be "chope-ed" by others. 

We finally got the unit and block we wanted. Exactly "SMACK" right in front of the beautiful river bay. Weeeeee!!! No blocking...No Noisy playground downstairs...Got the Beautiful bay windows for the Master Bedroom...Ya Allah!! I can cry.....seriously I do... knowing what happens from the last few weeks really challenge us both. Challenge after many challenges come our way but Alhamdullilah...my beaus stick to me and helped me in every possible way he can knowing that I didnt get my July pay....

WHY??? Because the bloody #$%$%^^#&&%@ effed-up bank closed my account without my knowledge for no good bloody reason. There was a discrepancy on their side and guess what? The "Unlucky" Me gets the shite.

But whatever past is past but to the officer who ask my account to be closed. Fuck You and You and You. I wish the same thing X 1000000000 will happen to you soon and look where can you go for help.

But negative things aside.....Im soooooooooooooooooooooo happy!!!! Im Soooooo Excited!!!!

Our House. Our Beautiful House.

Finally a Haven...me and Beau really looking forward to.

His Tiffany Bride.

I'm just soooo HAPPPY to call myself a Tiffany Bride.

Not the normal Lee Hwa...SK...Watever nots...BUT a TIFFANY BRIDE!!!
Class or What????? Aaaaahhh!!!

Okay so here is the updates!!

After so much recce-ing we decided to pick the following companies for our BIG DAY:

1) Caterer: 90% Confirm Amani Weddings

The BOSS and LADYBOSS are just superbly nice fellows. We took them for our Engagement and the service? Claaaasssss. It feels like your own family members cooking for you as the services they rendered are just simply wonderful. They pay attention to details...flexible on payments and they whole entourage are just really warm friendly people.

2) Decor: Jentayu Gallery!!!!!!!! Can I say it one more time???? Its JENTAYU GALLERY BABES!!!!

Since like 2008...I've been targetting to get them to decor for my wedding. YES. Price wise are upscale-ish but Me and Beau just cant help to gawk and gawk at their collections. So, we have already booked them during the recent Jentayu Gallery Event. It wasnt intended...on my part. Dear Beau..as usual surprise ME.
Our idea was to just enquire and when Beau ask how is the payment mode and after allllll the explanation...he ask me to pick the Dias that I like and BAMM!!!! he throw in the $$$$$ Cash!!! Cool or What??? Sometimes with all these things he does....he could be like those Upper Class Mafia. Just throw the $$$ and no questions asked.

COOL SHIT OR WHAT??!!!!!! I could Kiss him there and then.

I still remembered the feeling when we actually fill in the Booking form. It was all so sudden and surreal. And I remembered that I say to him...." Is this true???? Are we really booking Jentayu???!!" And he said....Yes Baby...den he gave that stupid smile that melts my knees and all the other intestines in the tummy"......sweeeeet nyerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!

And as crazy as it is....he wanted to sign up for the Atelier Package which cost $10K plus plus...and that is when I pulled the handbrake and I said Nope....dont be too hasty. If other girls, Im sure they would just go ahead with it.

3) Make-up Artist: Zul Radi Bridal Couture

This guy is just super cool and so low profile. I LOVE LOVE LOVE his works. Yes, initially we wanted somebody else BUT when I eventually met the so-called first choice....MELUAT GILER SIAK!!!

Firstly, its the way they look at me up and down. I shall not name the people ah but they are just a couple of Mak Nyah that turns me OFF the first time I talk to them personally. Well...at least one of them are not that bad. They look at my bag...my watch..my shoes and waaahh wahhh wahhh!! Nak kena tanyer kaper bag aku LV...jam aku Rolex and my shoes happens to be a ferragamo. MUST ASK AH??? Materialistic siak korang!! I ask to enquire bout YOUR SERVICE not you enquiring bout my own personal fashion items.

I hate it. Especially when they are pressurizing me to PAY AND PAY and Close the Deal cepat cepat. Hard selling nampak??!!! Even Bestie was quite pissed off. So at last we conclude...tak payar sua engage korang..dah lah mahal...prangai typical bitchy mak nyah and cock up first impression PLUS if the so-called boss make up nak kena tambah $700?!!!!! I dont mind paying if you are giving me a Top of the World service cos Im PAYING!! But $700?? Apa yang bagus sangat pasal korang nyer make-up to think back??? Pay $700..korang boleh buat muka aku macam Angelina Jolie ke Megan Fox kaper???!!!
NOT WORTH IT.

Coincidentally, one of my dance instructors recommended Zul Radi Bridal Couture. And, when we met him for the first time...Boyyyyyy!!! was he friendly and nice and just superbly HUMBLE. The warmth and hospitality that the whole staff gave us was just amazing and this is the kind of service that I'm looking for....And furthermore, he is more established and held his own Pageant. Also, he NEVER CHARGE ME EXTRA when I requested him to do the make-up!!!! Cool Kan???

And not to mention....he is the ONLY One that asked what theme would I like cos he said he might even create New outfits for me!!! Me!!!! And payment wise pon flexible...tak MEMAKSA!!!
So...I didnt wait any longer and just sign up and pay the deposit on the spot.

Suma Beres.

Alhamdullilah. Everything that we wanted and hope for seems to flow just fine. Ameen Ya Rabbal Al Ameen.

Syukran Ya Allah.

Save the Date.

After endless struggles, worries, dissappointment...Our Prayers was finally answered. Dear beau finally gotten the job that he likes. Really pray to Allah S.W.T for his "Longevity" in the service. To the ones who rejected my man just because his Diploma is so called irrelevant....my middle finger is up and waving in your face!! FUCK U to You and You and You.

Apologies for the vulgarities. Its just a frustration that seems to be bottling up inside for a long long veryyyy long time.

So yay!!! Updates!! Updates!! Updates!!!

We set our Wedding Date!!! Nope...Its not this year...nope!! Not next year either....its gonna be

S.A.V.E THE D.A.T.E

11th January 2014

Why it took so long you say?? BECAUSE certain 2013 brides are super bloody kiasu and snapped up the vendors that I wanted for our 2013 date. And being superbly concious of details....we decided to postphone a month more so that we could get all the companies we wanted. And NOPE!! we are not those "cincai bocai" type of people who could just grab whatever caterer or Make-up Artiste...just because they have slots....

I'm not arrogant or proud to be saying I want to have a BIG Fat Grande wedding...and I don't want to be a hypocrite to say I want to do it small n "ala kadar"...I HATE it when people say that. In my opinion, kalau kau asek cakap nak buat ala kadar den lebih baik jangan buat langsung....yess yess yeedee yaaadaa...money is more important after the marriage tapi kalau da plan mcm nak buat kahwin cowboy everything nak minimize den I dont think there is so much memory to be shared.

To me...this is a Walimatulurus...meaning that majlis nak kena sempurna dan memuaskan pihak yang dijemput. Kalau suma nak budget sana sini pon susah jugak. Not say that we need to splurge but I've been to weddings whereby the food only has two lauk....isnt that sad.

What I'm trying to say is...me and beau are not the type to rush into things. We like to do things the proper way and make sure we really fulfilled our guests needs. Yes, there will always be things that "Makcik Quarters" will say but if we know that we've done our best to provide den our conscience is cleared.

There are also other factors to consider. There are only certain limited months in 2013 that we can do our wedding. Must consider the Ramadhan Month...Hari raya....and school holidays!! Why?!!! Because of my career...i'm teaching and when it's the holidays..you cant invite your colleagues cause there are always at other ends of the earth. So march..june...sept..nov and dec is OUT!!

So there we go......1.5 Years before I can finally marry my Bestfriend.

2012 Already Huh??

Hey Hey Hey!!! So it's 2012 already Huh??? and Guess What?? it is coming to the 4th Month Since my Engagement Ceremony in December. And right now, currently planning and recce-ing for vendors for the BIG HUMONGOUS DAY. *takuuuuuutt*

Alhamdullilah thanks to the Almighty Allah S.W.T for His blessings and for fulfilling my wish to finally be engaged on the date I wanted. Everything went on smoothly as plan. Best part was, BOTH families were so co-operative and friendly towards each other....I could almost KISS em alll...*touched* Guess that's what they do right?? Rise to the occasion and EVERYONE of my family members..well nearly ALL stayed through the whole ceremony when deep inside I know that they are always busy and have something on that made them always left other events halfway....whatever laaa...my grammar sucks today...

And everyone sang...laugh...joked....sabotage others to sing....It was the happiest moment for me and Beau I guess...I could see him smiling from ear to ear...me too...And the most Magical moment would be when I arrived and walked towards the Dias...It was magical...something that i had could only dreamed...when u knew that all eyes on you and finally you are the centre of attention.

And I still remember Beau's expression when he first saw that I was all Dolled up...he had this *Charming smile I would say that made me all touched blushed embarassed and all red. It was such a beautiful moment when His mom put on the ring and bracelet as well and all the cameras, videos, lighting plus all the camera phones are snapping away. It truly made me feel like Im holding a celebrity wedding...best gitu kan...takpela Suria Channel... I tak jadi artis kat Mediacorp..Artis bawah block pon da glamz per....

Now all that's left are memories with Thousands of pictures captured and hours of video footage. Indeed, the money that were spent on...was definitely worth it. All the vendors that we actually picked was superb expecially Amani Wedding.

Not to mention, the Boss himself came down on my Engagement Ceremony Day just to check on the food plus all the deco and stuff...Which Big Boss would do that for you??? Ok laaa..no doubt it impressed me...

Well catch you're all later, will update more soon. Now..time for nap.zzzzzz

So EXCITED!!!!!

I know i know.....its been like the longiest time that I've actually update this pathetic blog of mine. Been busy with school...been busy with students....been busy being a busybody....hakz!!!


So, currently me and beau just waiting to pay our caterer the 70% deposit and at the same time choosing the baju that I like...hmmmm...was thinking of having the first baju as white den the second outfit could be a nice simple long dress...I saw the majlis pertunangan of elly mazlein and BOY!! do me like her outfit but hair wise i just think it looks sucky...oh well i've never been the type of minah to have curls as my fringe. That's ewwww...


So what have i been doing all this while....


1) BERKAT: DONE
Got it from King and Kong..hahahhaha What the hell?? 


No I'm not giving out orang utans or related species as my door gifts. The place is SUPERB okies....only fit for Mak mak Datins... Well i thought so..knowing and seeing the fact that all their stuffs are super duper expensive.


They have a branch at NEX mall but do not have the berkat. So we actually travel to JB to search for the berkat. It is an exquisite Gold Plated Metal Heart Shape Box with a Handle and plus minus the cost is bout SGD 3 plus plus with the inserts. We are going to put those traditional red eggs. 


The price scared the SHIT out of me of course but when I saw my Ibu long (My dad's Sister) says she is sponsoring...its a phewwwwwww..... Thanks Ibu...I love u...


2) INVITATION CARD: DONE
Got it from Warisan Ideareka...came to know from one of my friends it is one of the most expensive card designs shops and I do agree but the designs are just so AWESOME and CLASSY.


They have several collections that you can choose from VVIP being the most expensive and Budget ones which im sure I do not need to explain. So as you can guess, the Mummy Datin of mine chooses what?? Yesssss...she chose VVIP ones that cost RM 4 per each pathetic card. But its super nice and not to mention the inserts are of a thick baroque design papers and we have OUR VERY OWN CUSTOM MADE HOT STAMPING NAME!!!*best hingga menggigit jari*


I dun really care if they throw the card away..what do i care...impression on my event comes first..heheee


3) MINI DAIS: DONE
Got it from Cahaya Nanie. First impression makes me love love them. Second thing that got me is their super friendly service. This guy call Reno was like super friendly and give in to our requests and even throw in a red carpet for ME to walk on PRO BONO!!!! And the best part is that I can choose my own flowers and all other nitty gritty details unlike this previous company which i refused to name charges me nearly SGD 600 for a Dais with NO CHAIRS!!! I was so fuming mad...BECAUSE I already paid her a deposit and only found out about Cahaya Nanie few days later but Mom was sweet and help me get my dream dais.


4) ITS NOT HALLOWEEN ANYMORE: :))))))
By writing it's not halloween, I've finally successfully got dear beau to change his mind bout the colour theme. It used to be orange and black which is Amani's signature colour which i think it is really nice if we do it for a wedding but other than that, it gives me the vibe that we're celebrating halloween instead of our engagement ceremony. So we decided, to change it to PINK CREAM AND WHITE...yaaayyy!!! and I got my Secret Garden theme...Im all Smiles Smiles Smilessssssss....Needless to say it was hard work convincing him. But, I have my ways. *grins*


5) TIRAMISU/ CUPCAKE GUBAHAN


As a token of Love and the depletion of my moola$$$$$, I've decided to bake some of the gubahan foodies myself and also create for him a birthday cake. Im so excited about the cake cos i just drop by at IKEA and saw this candle holder which is so perfect to make a 2 tiered cake holder. I plan to make a BIG GIRNORMOUS Rainbow cuppiecake to be placed on the first tier and Tiramisu in Wine glasses which i had just purchased just now at IKEA using Chin Keong's vouchers. Tiramisu in a Wine glass....uhhmm...Sexy or what???? woooohoooo!!!






Other than all this, I guess we should be relatively prepared for the upcoming event. It gives the jitters and nightmares and I do not want to be so excited about it. Old people say you shouldnt be so overly excited. Just keep calm and Insyaallah everything will go smoothly.


But i guess, Im only excited about the part of choosing my outfit. Saw a sneak preview of Amani boutique. It makes me go Gaga seeing that its decorated in Pink. Weee!!!! Im just excited on how i will look like and most of the girls say i should go for a trial make up...oh well...this Money thing make me have break outs and I havent even booked an appointment with my Aesthetics Doctor and knowing that he is always goin to Paris and back makes me even more scared whether i could get him on time. sigh.


One thing that scared me and has been knocking me in the back of my mind is the question of "Am I planning this too grandly just for an Engagement Ceremony?" If I were to ask Darling beau...an arrow would be shooting 360 degrees around me and he would start nagging and lecturing again. But I guess, it's not a matter that i'm trying to show off or anything. 


Maybe people or even beau forget to realize that WHAT this Engagement Ceremony day actually means to both of us. It is not only a day of exchanging the rings that will signify our soon to be UNITY. It is a day whereby we are celebrating the sacrifices and tortured times that we had gone through just to keep this relationship a Success. It is a day to say " HEY, WE FINALLY GOT HER DAD'S BLESSINGS!!" It means so much to me that any other things that has happen in my life, for my dad to accept him. This is the day. For all those years, we kept out relationship as low profile as ever, running away so that not to be seen by other people, making up excuses just to see him, enduring all those harsh words and lies that my Dad tries to put in my head to break off with him.


We are celebrating it this way because we finally got the Freedom. We are so proud that we've made it through all this years despite of the troubles, fights, shouts and cries. We nearly made it Babey. This is our last lap before we finally get to exchange our vows...and I love you. 
Really I Do.

Video from Shania Twain, "You're Still the One"

Nothing else describes my feelings perfectly other than this Lovely song.