Eppp!!! Cannot aye?

Hello you all[s]!!!! Have you BTB[s] experienced the momma[s].makcik[s].nenek[s] repeatedly told you...eh cannot do this!! Eh!! Don't do that!! Jangan balik malam malam!!! Eh this!! Eh that!! Well, I have and being me, I will always ask why as I am that one individual who never follow any blind faith. And, I believed there should always be a logic and realistic explanation for every single thing that we cant do.

So, basically I know that many of us Malay BTB[s] are aware of the pantang larang[s] that needed to be followed but exactly what are the true facts to it or is it just a myth? For me, prevention is cure and I would try to follow closely as best as I could, manalah tauu...orang tua tua selalu cakap jangan degil kann nanti kena dolat [karma]. As for beau, he has strictly follow all this pantang larang maybe because he is constantly being reminded by Grammma at home. So, yep this dude totally takes it seriously. Which is good...I guess.

So, here are the "Cannot[s]" before that Big day of yours. It's not compulsory for you to follow but hey! just look at it as a guideline jer lah yer Cik kak?!!

Ready...Steady...Go!!!

Jangan keluar dengan pasangan selama 40 hari sebelum diijabkabul
utk mengelakkan tohmahan masyarakat. Selain itu ia bertujuan utk mengawal nafsu. Ia juga utk menimbulkan perasaan rindu dendam. Perasaan yg timbul akan membuatkan wajah pengantin lebih berseri. 

Comments: We will try our best but sometimes, we might have to as we need to tie some loose ends kan. 
Jgn tidur dirumah orang takut terkena ilmu. Ia juga utk menjaga
nama baik keluarga.

Comments: Prease eh korang....tido kat rumah sendiri. Jangan nak carik pasal. Kena tenyeh minyak senyonyong baru u all tauu.

Jgn bebas keluar kemana-mana kerana takut disantau oleh mereka yg
mempunyai niat tidak baik.

Comments: Basically, it still happens. So best jaga mulut tu yer kengkawan.

Jgn makan nasi dgn gulai berkuah beberapa bulan sebelum naik
pelamin bagi mengelakkan perut buncit.

Comments: Dulu gulai...sekarang korang jangan sental Macdonald hari hari...silap silap muka pon bolej jadi buncit.

Elakkan makan ulam yg berbau busuk seperti petai dan jering.

Comments: Try it and you know what happens when the pee comes along.

Jgn bercermin terutama selepas maghrib ke atas bagi mengelak diri
dari perkara sihir.

Comments: Errrr.....

Jgn membuang air kecil dan air besar serentak di dlm air contohnya
dlm sungai, kolah kerana ia boleh melemahkan organ seks.

Comments: Haahahhahahahaha..Dont try to scringe that 10 cents ok? Try to go proper toilet.

Elakkan minum air bergas kerana ia mempunyai gula dan gas yg tinggi
dan boleh menyebabkan kencing manis.

Comments: Basically, its not demure to Burp infront of Tok Kadi okay people?!!!
Elakkan mandi malam kerana tidak elok untuk sendi-sendi.

Comments: This is true hokay people. You can get rheumatism. Tu yang Nenek I bilang...

Kawal makan iaitu sekali makan setiap hari (mengikut sesetengah
adat)

Comments: Kau jangan nak sental jer nasi bergayung-gayung...control la yer?!! Diet babe Diet!!!

Elakkan terlalu banyak makan makanan laut ke rana ia mengandungi
banyak toksid.

Comments: This is true people. I ate seafood two weeks before my Engagement and I got the worst rashes ever. If you ever terkena, and the only bloody medicine you got is melamine lotion. Go to any Kedai Ubat Cina Sensei and ask for Minyak Chap Udang. (Well, it works for me.)

Amalkan makan telur ayam kampung seminggu 2 kali yg dicampur madu dan lada hitam yg ditumbuk utk menambah tenaga.

Comments: Ayam kampung pon tak nampak.....lagi kan telor
Bagi mereka yg banyak angin, minum air halia utk membuang angin.

Comments: Add in with Gula Melaka and Honey for a better sweeter taste ladies. It works.

Cukupkan waktu tidur tujuh hingga lapan sehari.

Comments: Kalau korang nak join Kai kai and Jia jia silakan jangan tido eh....they need more panda[s] anyway.

Elakkan terkena cahaya matahari kerana dikhuatiri hitam dan tidak
berseri pada hari perkahwinan.

Comments: Petua for me. Everytime bring Poncho and Payung cos it wont rain when I did. Serious.
Banyakkan baca surah-surah bagi mengelakkan gangguan syaitan. Sentiasa mengingati Allah.

Comments: IMPORTANT!!!!!!

Jgn makan sebebas-bebasnya kerana ketika ini sistem dalaman tidak
stabil.

Comments: Dah ku kata...jangan asek sental makanan Tijah oiiii!!!!

Jgn terlalu terdedah kepada keluarga lelaki (simpan diri).

Comments: I wear sleeveless. Does that count? Hot wattttt!!!!! It's Singapore [la]

Jgn berembun atau keluar malam bagi mengelakkan unsur jahat.

Comments: Tak habis-habis pasal sihir.
Jgn bercelak atau berlangir serta memotong rambut seminggu sebelum ijabkabul.

Comments: Like if you cut your hair wrongly...susah right must wear wig segala. Jadi tangan jangan gatal...dont want eh!!
Bilik lelaki atau wanita jgn dikosongkan. Mesti ada orang atau
ahli keluarga terdekat tidur di dalam bagi mengelak dr dikhianati org.

Comments: This is why...the best ghost stories comes from the Malays. Favourite pastime is spent with the Bomoh.

Jgn buat kerja yg berat. Bila pengantin membuat kerja berat, dia
akan berasa penat dan mudah terjadi nya gangguan emosi.

Comments: This pantang OF COS' I FOLLOWWWW.......

Jaga pertuturan agar tidak menimbulkan rasa sakit hati.

Comments: And this is why I started a blog. Tuan cakap tak boleh cakap, tapi Tuan tak cakap tak boleh type...kan kan?!

Elakkan makan dan minum seperti sayur bersifat sejuk seperti
kangkung, bayam, timun, jambu batu dan air kelapa agar muka nampak
segar.

Comments: Kalau tak mahu muka tu jadi mentimon basi......
Jgn cukur kening ditakuti akan menghilangkan seri muka.

Comments: WHAT?!!!! WHAT?!!!! You know what I look like with a thick bush above my eyes?!!!

Lempar baju di atas bumbung rumah tanpa diketahui oleh org lain
bagi mengelakkan hujan turun ketika majlis berlangsung.

Comments: Bumbung kebabai!!!! Bumbung rumah aku tingkat 16 dokk....dah macam olympic ah campak javelin.
Dilarang memandang cermin ketika disolek oleh juruandam kerana
dikhuatiri hilang seri.

Comments: Abeh kalau makeup kita tak suka macam maner?.....pouts

Kedua pengantin dilarang bercakap ketika bersanding kerana kurang
manis dipandang tetamu.

Comments: Kalau tak boleh control, berbisik...jangan kau terpekik terpekau sampai dari Bedok ke Jurong pon boleh dengar.

Jgn makan kepala ayam nanti mengantuk masa bersanding.

Comments: Who does THAT?!!!!!!!

Elakkan keluar rumah tanpa tujuan kerana angan-angan yg tinggi
menjelang perkahwinan dikhuatiri bakal pengantin mengalami kemalangan jika berada diluar.

Comments: Jgn banyak dreaming eh pompuan, Mak Gajah jalan kat depan pon tak nampak nanti.


Anyhoo, this are some of the pantang larang[s] I picked up from the internet. Many are just suited for people during our Momma[s] era but I guess if you just take care of yourself and dont do things you shouldn't, you should be save la kan. All in all, kita ni orang perempuan, so jagalah maruah diri masing-masing yer.....Like what I mentioned in the previous post, always remember that we malays have our own culture and traditions and do not spoil it. Basically, like what Momma always tell me, kalau nak bersuka ria mesti ada limit. Jangan terlalu happy happy sangat, nanti Nangis.

Ring a bell anyone??

Till then,

Loved.

Kalau Mulut dah terasa Sambal Belacan....Confirm LU Melayu [eh]!!!

Helllo you all[s]!!! So, today's topic is a wee bit controversial. Basically, the idea and logic comes from an acquantaince of mine who actually asked me on what are the progress for my wedding preparations.

As usual, being an honest and direct-to-the-point-me, I said that it's been hectic and the whole family is into it especially both our Momma[s] and definitely the over-the-moon adoring Aunties on both sides. Weekends are spend mostly meeting up with vendors or groomsmen or bridesmaid or just filled with discussion on wedding stuffs. And just last few weekends, we were totally swamped by the whole wedding favours + invitation cards fiasco.

And, what shocked me the most was that, she asked me a question, "SO, WHAT IS YOUR BRIDESMAID DOING ALL THIS WHILE?". And for a moment, it just strucks me, and I just answered, that my bridesmaid are helping us and guiding the wedding process all along and what matters most is that on the actual day, they will be the busiest people around and right now, I do not want to add more stress to them. Come on lah, basically, our Groomsmen + Bridesmaid are our own cousins or friends that are just like our very own siblings. I do not have the heart to burden people okay.

Then, this acquantaince of mine was telling me indirectly, that I am just troubling myself and usually for her group of friends, they would give a budget to the bridesmaid and let the bridesmaid handle everything. Oh well, all I can say...kau belom nak kahwin mana kau tahu?!!! So, kirakan siapa yang nak kahwin?? Your Bridesmaid or you?!!! And to top it off, she can actually mentioned that she doesnt like mothers to be involved in all this wedding preparations and stuff. That was another STRIKE. I may not know your mother but Hell yes I would know how she feels..and at this point, I felt bad for her giving birth to YOU!

To my understanding, Marriage is not only about you and your partner, It is not about the union of two souls but more of like a Union of 2 families coming together to be as ONE. And while we are at it preparing for all this crazy event, of course we would like everyone to join in the fun and share our happiness. Maybe, just maybe I am that person who likes to spread happiness all around and it feels good when everyone gets together to do something. 

And furthermore, this are one of the proudest moments for Moms and Dads especially. Many at times they dont show their excitement, but being the not-so-observant me, I can even see Bonda [MIL], always so busy recce-ing places for wedding favours, bunga rampai, live band entertainments and keeping me up to date on Beau's side progress. And for Momma, she was equally excited on the dress that I'll put on, the colour themes and wedding favours and such. 

For Ayah [FIL], though he doesnt talks that much, he always supports our decision and follow us to all vendors or recce-ing the places that we wanted to go without any complaint. Such was the patience and support that he gave us. And to top it all off, my Dad, he was constantly busy trying to DIY every single thing that I wanted and basically pour himself over the Catering menu and announcing proudly about our wedding to the other happy family members. Such was the loved that we've got and the patience he has for all my crazy ideas is absolutely terrifying.

So, Im asking the question back to YOU?!! How could you not include this people in for the biggest event of your life?! Or Maybe, my Momma[s] ARE BETTER THAN YOUR MOMMA. To me, kita kan berbangsa melayu. Ada Adat, ada Budaya, ada Agama.

Nak jadi se-moden mana pun, bukan tak boleh tapi berpada-pada. Kalau semua nak moden, semua nak ikut cara barat, well hello!! Kau tu pon bukannyer putih melepak sangat nak step orang putih kan?! Kalau dah memang melayu, berbangga ajelah dengan apa yang telah diberikan Allah S.W.T. 

Betol tak kengkawan?!!

In fact, if you were to talk about not being malay and such. I guess, I am that one person who so-called will not be beheaded even if I want to step-ang mo style okay?!! Cos' as fate has it, on Momma's side, my Grandad always reminded me that we are not pure malay as his Dad was Dutch and that is something that we as Grandchildren needs to be proud about and for Dad's side, he has this Arab bloodline, that goes without saying why most of the family members are just oh-so good looking. As for me, though I speak Melayu hancur berderai lah jugak, I still considered myself a Malay and am PROUD to be malay. 

So, my fellow BTB[s], I have seen enough weddings, read enough blogs, to be seeing that many of the Brides nowadays who totally forgot the traditional elements of our culture. And that is just sad people. No matter how modernised you can be, it should be shown through the mindset and thinking and not by adopting the West culture and pretend it's your own.

For me, let others see that maybe my wedding is one hell of a kecoh-rific affair. But at the very least, I know that it is embedded in my memories that it is filled with both tears and laughters from the people who loves us most.

Never change your roots people. Be proud of who you are. That is the words I live by every single day.

Till then,

Loved.